The expression of sexual needs should be straightforward or implied
Like a straight husband, often cause his wife to complain about “no fun at all”, but the wife implicitly said “Let’s sleep”, and the husband may fall down and fall asleep.
When the expression of sexual requirements is not understood and accepted by the other person, think about your emotions?
Annoyance, irritability, disgust, replacement, and ultimately sexual harmony ceased to exist, and spousal relationships plummeted.
HealthNet sexology and psychologists believe that expressing sexual needs in other ways should be regarded as the balance of sexual attitudes of husband and wife.
If the two approaches are accepted in the same way, it is not a problem whether it is straightforward or implicitly expressive.
However, when one side does not like the twists and turns, but the other side is devoted to the “riddle guessing game”, it is best to be open and express your wishes at the same time.
Frustrated expression of sexual needs may induce ED “Sex is the first need of a person and the cornerstone of marriage.
“Hu Shenzhi, a psychologist at the Sunflower Psychological Counseling Center in Guangzhou City, said that when sexual demands are made between husband and wife, if both accept the same expression, harmony will certainly continue.
But the most feared is that one side has to speak directly and do it directly, while the other side feels that “the vagueness is beauty”. The two people’s thoughts are misplaced, and the problem follows.
”Sex was originally naked, but it was restricted by moral ethics.
Why do men sting?
One is because it is not necessary to worry about the other person ‘s feelings, and it is only necessary to satisfy themselves. The second is because it can directly express sexual needs without being responsible.
Hu Shenzhi said that men generally like to be straightforward in their psychological psychology and don’t like to go in circles, but in the eyes of women, without flirtation and foreplay sex, they become purely physical vents.
“How do you think of me as a tool for satisfying sexual desire?” Women often complain about men like this. Faced with such feedback, men often feel frustrated, and they can also involuntarily attack each other at the same time.
Some men blamed their wives directly, quarreling with their wives, and some men have never had an erection after having sex with their wives.
“A lot of people think it is a physical problem, and actually 80% of ED is a psychological problem.
When inner anger and dissatisfaction with his wife are transferred to the body, ED is induced.
“Balancing comes from frankness, compromise, and restraint of different sexual attitudes, which leads to differences in the expression of sexual needs. This is actually understandable.
However, if we blindly think that it is the other party’s problem, we will not intensify the contradiction if we do not find the cause from ourselves or try to change actively.
“Even if I don’t say it, the other person can still know each other,” said Hu Shenzhi. This kind of thinking is, in the final analysis, the child’s desire for an all-round mother, not a mature way of thinking.
Maybe my expression is improper and makes you dissatisfied, but how do I know if you don’t say it?
What do you want me to do?
If they were more honest about these issues at the beginning, or if they now blame each other, the annoyed couple could look at each other and smile and resolve their differences more happily.
Hu Shenzhi said that the expression and communication of sexual needs are best not to hide and guess.
If the wife is dissatisfied with her husband’s outspokenness, he can tell the husband that “more touch and more foreplay during sex, I will feel more comfortable.”
If the husband thinks that his wife says “Let’s sleep” is too implicit, he may ask his wife for a kiss or encourage him to put on sexy pajamas.
Proper coordination and restraint, for example, when giving up when taking into account the needs of the other person, taking into account the other’s poor health or poor mood, will make the other person feel cared for and cared for.
But be reminded that sex must not pretend not to want, but pretend to not.
Some women often say to their husbands, “Don’t touch me if you’re not good,” and unconsciously use sex as a tool and replace it with benefits, which will become a mutually oppressive relationship.
There should be different expressions of sexual needs at different ages, and even the “sex” between husbands and wives cannot be hidden or pretended, but Associate Professor Zhang Bin, director of the Department of Infertility and Sexual Medicine of the Third Affiliated Hospital of Sun Yat-Sen University believes that sexual needs are expressed at different ages.The approach should be different.
Within the contraction after the newly-married couple, the couple has just merged, and they have not adapted to their marriage life and their positioning in the family. They are still in the running-in period. At this time, if the sexual needs are expressed too much, the other person may have difficulty communicating.Understand acceptance and even develop aversion.
If you change to a hug, a kiss, gouging your palms, and dimming the lights, it will become a better effect.
The hint of middle age does not need to be too strong, after all, he is already an old wife and wife, and is already familiar with each other.
At this time, the biggest problem is the gradual lack of emotional communication between husbands and wives, and love is relatively tedious, so the expression of sexual needs must change the previous monotonous routine, full of change and connotation.
“For example, if two people go out for dinner, shopping, outings, watching a movie, giving a birthday gift, or going to a place to fall in love, remembering those sweet years, from time to time a new trick, love can be kept fresh.
Entering into the old age, sex life is no longer just a simple sexual intercourse model. In many cases, it is only embracing and masturbating. The expression of sexual needs is naturally less implicit and more straightforward.
”But regardless of age, sex is always based on love.Love and rudeness can also be forgiven. Relentless and purely attached to the form, the feeling will gradually become hypocritical.
Professor Zhang pays special attention not to let sex have a purpose. For example, if some people with sexual dysfunction are eager to know if they have sexual abilities, they hurriedly married, and then they went straight to sex.Kind of experiment and detection.
Long ago, not only did the couple’s relationship break down, but sexual dysfunction was also more difficult to treat.